21 Things I've Learned Before I Turned Twenty-One

Wednesday, January 08, 2014

1. Guys or girls who score a 10 in looks but only give you their 70 or 80% won't get you far in a relationship. Find someone who is a 7 or 8, but will give you his/her 100%. People will grow old and outer appearance is only temporary. But a person's heart will show their true side, and you deserve to be with someone who give you their all.
2. Everyone has a story. It doesn't matter if someone is wearing tattered clothes or a nice suit; young or old; struggling to pay for all their groceries or rich enough to hire an at-home cook; black, white, Hispanic, or Pakastani; gay, transsexual, or straight; disabled; or has funky hair colors, don't judge them. Be open minded. Everyone is different, and how you perceive them through the media or at the first meeting isn't the end all for why he or she is the way they are.
3. Remember to tell you parents "I love you" and spend quality time with them when you can. Stay in contact with them. Sometimes we forget that our parents aren't getting any younger and won't be with us forever.
4. Speak up and keep in touch with old friends. Your number of friends should grow as you age, not vice versa. Plus you never know when you might need their help, or when they will need yours!
5. Don't ever loose hope or give up. Ever. "Every cloud has a silver lining", no matter what troubles you run into. As long as you truly try your best, you'll find a way to pull through.
6. A person's worth isn't, and shouldn't be, defined by their religion or virginity.
7. Love who you are, and remember to put yourself first.
8. Change is the only thing consistent in life. Sometimes change is great, sometimes it is heart wrenching. At some point in time, you'll learn to embrace it and move on with life, no matter what direction it takes you.
9. Drink coffee for a quick wake-me-up. Drink tea for the soothing feelings and health benefits.
10. Don't hold grudges; don't hate for forever. Forgive them, move on, and believe in them. If that person sincerely apologizes, accept the apology. Saying "I'm sorry" is harder than you think.
11. Dress the way you want to dress. Go out in that cute dress and heels when everyone else is in t-shirt and jeans, and hold your head high. Don't let others opinions and society change the way you want to be. Confidence is sexy and will get you far in life.
12. Take photos to document the ups and down in life. Take photos to show your grandchildren what your life was like when you were their age. But don't live with a camera in your hands. Remember to step back sometimes and just enjoy the moment that can only be described through experience.
13. Open your heart and be compassionate. Just listen, and try to look at things from their point-of-view.
14. Write your feelings down. Write letters to the people you love. Pick up the phone and call, not text. Hiding behind the Technology Wall of texting or instant messaging isn't as heartfelt as something handwritten or hearing their voice.
15. Smile. Smile at friends and strangers. Smile because it will trick you to feel happy even when you're crying. Smile and people will believe you to be everything positive - friendly, easy-going, and nice.
16. Enjoy the journey as you climb towards your goal. When you look back, you will appreciate your achievement more when you look back at your progress. Maybe it was filled with blood, sweat, and tears, but staying positive is much better for your soul than being pessimistic will ever be.
17. Choose your friends wisely. Hold your ground when your opinions differ. Stand up for what you believe in. And if they don't respect you for who you are or what you believe in, don't be afraid to stop the friendship if the both of you can't find middle ground.
18. There are pros and cons to everything. Every. Single. Thing. What's important is being able to see both sides, and from there, making a good, informed decision.
19. If you are beautiful on the inside, then how you look on the outside won't matter. Beauty is how your eyes shine when you talk about something you love. Beauty is the ability to make someone smile, even if you are sad. Beauty is seeing the beautiful in the ordinary. Be beauty deep down in your soul.
20. It's better to love someone who's far and craves to be with you than to love someone who's near yet doesn't care to see you.
21. Live for yourself. Breathe for yourself. Do everything in life for no one else but you. This is your life. This is it.

This was supposed to be posted yesterday before I turned 21, but this list was sitting in my drafts until I remembered today. Every one of these were things that I've learned and changed to on my own. I'm an old soul, I know. But I've been through too much, and self-reflection is one of the best ways I've been able to grow up and mature on my own.

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    I need to do something like this but I always say I never do. :(